The truth is, its not that hard to have everything you really want. So long as you know what you really want, and have the ability to communicate it to others. Life is simple, people tend to make it hard. But if they just do one or two simple things, it changes the whole game. So, why one or two? That depends on if you’re male or female. You see, a woman only really has to do one thing, whereas a man has to do two. Does that seem unfair? Well, it kind of is… for the woman.

A man has to be honest, and he has to be the best. He has to put it down, like nobody before him knew how to do the damn thing right. On the other hand, a woman just has to be honest. But to be fair, that’s a little harder than it is for men. See, despite whatever bullshit they might try to feed you, most men know themselves well enough. But, while many women are very good at telling you what they think they want, what they think they should want, or how things should be, they are not generally good at knowing themselves. Not who they are, but who they should be, what will make them happy. So before she can be honest with you, she first has to learn to be honest with herself. But that’s a rough ask, because women have a tendency to measure themselves against others, both directly and indirectly. They rarely see themselves without making judgments about what right or wrong, about how they will be perceived, about how their choices might effect the way world reacts to them. Its never really “fuck the world…” which is a sentiment most likely familiar to most men, whether they had the balls to actually live that life or not. No, the world matters to women… maybe not always individual opinions, but definitely public consensus. So accepting yourself as you are, is rarely ever really on the table, and in fact, they may never come to know who that person even is. All too busy Judging themselves, rather than the world around them. Because from the very beginning women receive nothing if not bad advice and misinformation. By the time they realize that other people don’t know what the hell they’re talking about, and stop listening to others, they tend to be left with the best of the bad information they received. Unfortunately, this becomes the foundation of their knowledge, that which they own, which informs who they are or should be. No longer able to be taught, because they no longer see others as competent teachers. After all, if they’re going to fuck up, they can do that by themselves. But also, unable to explore the truth of themselves with honest eyes, forever jaded by the act of becoming an “adult”. They become stuck in place, mired to their own expectations and experiences. Of course, this is also the reason men need to do two things, because women need an excuse to accept them in all their honesty, unapologetic to the world around them… when women have done nothing but apologize. Now, not all women require men to do the second thing, or rather, the second thing doesn’t have to be what I am most obviously alluding to. No, sometimes being the best can mean treating a woman well, in a manner to which she is not accustomed. A woman who has been treated poorly, is especially dispositioned to someone who treats her well, or even just decently. A woman who is fed-up, might just want to try something new and different. Sometimes, honesty itself is in fact enough, especially if a woman is well experienced with the calamity of dishonest relationships. Really, a man just has to be the best man she has ever known… but for women who actually enjoy sex, it certainly helps if you put it down right. But if you show me a woman who doesn’t enjoy sex, 99% of the time I can show you a woman who hasn’t had it done right. The rest are medical anomalies, hardcore trauma, female mutilation, or they use to be a guy. Because when it comes to sex, what I wouldn’t give to be a woman.